You could alter your whole way of life when you focus on positive solutions rather than problems and difficulties.
This 10-Day Negative Thought Fast was originated by Emmett Fox, a popular self-help guru from the early 20th century, and is well worth giving a try.
Here are the rules:
1. If you break any of the other rules, you must start the 10 days over from the beginning. To get the full effect, you must complete 10 consecutive days. Giving up negative thoughts is a little like giving up any other addicitive habit; you’ve got to stop completely, otherwise you haven’t truly quit.
2. You cannot focus on a negative thought or remain in a negative emotional state for more than five minutes. Ideally, the time should be much shorter. Five minutes should be plenty of time to recognize what’s going on and put a stop to it. Remember, even one instance of lingering for more than five minutes means starting again.
3. You must focus on solutions. When the negative thoughts start, the idea is to start contemplating possible solutions immediately. Spend your time solving your challenges instead of focusing on them.If you’re like most people, you’ve probably had the same challenges for quite a while without resolution. It’s time to try another approach instead of dwelling on what’s wrong.
This all sounds very easy, but you may be surprised how difficult it is to give up negativity. We tend to think that worrying helps in some way. But you’ve probably been worrying about a lot of things for a long time and I bet they haven’t improved.
When you’re faced with a negative thought (and there will be many!), the best response is to think to yourself, “How can I solve or improve this challenge?, or What is the learning that can come from this?”
Over the 10 days, you’ll begin to form a habit of immediately recognizing a negative mental state and then focusing on solutions for the issue. If you continue the process after the 10 days are completed, you’ll develop a permanent habit that will only require a minimal amount of maintenance.
You might need several attempts to complete the full 10 days. It’s common to have numerous slips on day one and then a few others later in the process. Refrain from beating yourself up over it. Remember, you’re focusing on solutions.
Arresting those negative thoughts.
One way to help keep the negative thoughts at bay is to ask yourself positive questions such as:
- What’s great about today?
- What do I like the most about this?
- What am I learning in this situation?
- What am I grateful for?
- What am I most looking forward to?
When you fill your mind with positive thoughts, there is no room for the negative stuff. And since we can only consciously think about one thing at a time, making the most out of your thoughts makes sense.
So try this 10-day adventure and see if it doesn’t change your life. You’ll be so amazed at the results that you’ll never want to go back to your old ways.
Start this process today and change your life for the better.